Since beginning my foray into the realm of the online meet-n-greet, I have been on four “first encounters.”
I refrain from calling them dates because everyone seems to have a different interpretation of what these first meetings are supposed to be. And in my not-so-humble opinion, a date is something that happens AFTER two people have met face-to-face, established that they are capable of participating in a mutually enjoyable conversation, and determined that they would desire to pursue face-to-face interaction.
Being a novice myself when it comes to interaction within the social sphere known as “dating,” the learning curve has been both wide and steep.
Here are a few of the things I’ve learned in the past few days:
1. If a guy doesn’t contact you within the three days before the scheduled date, the date probably isn’t going to happen.
- If a guy likes your pictures and contacts you before reading through your entire profile, the date probably isn’t going to happen.
If a guy isn’t willing to meet you halfway, you don’t want the date to happen.
The ability to carry on conversation is important. If you are a bad conversationalist, go ahead and make a list of 20 open-ended questions (that you wouldn’t mind answering yourself). It might be tacky to pull out a list, but that would be FAR LESS AWKWARD than staring at your food. Seriously. Make a list. You can’t expect your date to do the majority of the work. Conversation is a two-way street.
CONVERSATION IS A TWO-WAY STREET. I went on a date during which the dude I was with made it abundantly clear that he was the most fascinating person he had ever met. We spent an hour and a half talking, and during that time, he didn’t ask me a single question about myself.
Needless to say, there was not a second meeting.
There’s always more to learn. Another day, another lesson as I continue this adventure in the world of online dating!