In Which I Haven’t Dated For a While….

Once upon a time there was a gal who played around on dating websites.

She wrote blog posts about disastrous encounters and humorous “I-cant-believe-a-guy-would-say-that-and-expect-a-date” messages.

Suddenly the posts stopped.

She found out that while it’s easy to write about the bad dates and poke fun at the ludicrous interactions, it’s much harder to write about dating from the standpoint of dating someone you might actually have a future with! (And even during the first month, the potential for a future was there.)

After a few brief exchanges via OKCupid, we met in person December 1 of 2015.  [I was 30 minutes late to our first date because I couldn’t find my car keys, and I’ve stayed pretty much true to character since.]

We lived an hour and half apart, so our dates tended to be marathon all-day affairs.

A restaurant
A Pub
The Mustard Museum
The Gift of a Couch
Acquiring Cats
Christmas parties
Gingerbread Houses
New Year’s Party
Breaking Bad

The first time he told me he loved me was on Valentine’s Day– Scared the CRAP out of me because I was NOT ready to take that step yet and didn’t think it was possible for him to be. [I was wrong] Continue reading “In Which I Haven’t Dated For a While….”


In Which I Assess Degrees of Bacon

“Don’t go Bacon My Heart!– I couldn’t if I fried!”

It’s a pun only a bacon lover would appreciate–But no worries! As Paleo and clean eating increase in popularity, so does Bacon.

Memes like this abound on the interwebs
Memes like this abound on the interwebs

What is almost as popular as bacon? Online Dating– specifically Apps that allow users to swipe yes or no based on a single picture and MAYBE a phrase or two!

Enter the Oscar Mayer App named SIZZL.

“Must love bacon” sounds like a brilliant premise for a swipe-worthy relationship, so of COURSE I had to explore it! (Wouldn’t that be a great story for the grandkids? “How did you and grandpa meet?” “Well, kids, It was a match made in bacon!”)
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Celebrating Love By Ignoring Valentine’s Day

Ah, February—season of ground hogs, super bowl commercials (what? Some people actually watch it for the game?), and of course, the most despised of all the Hallmark holidays.

You can’t miss it—in every retail establishment from the grocery store to Mall of America, the shelves are decked with pink and red and heart-shaped festoonery announcing the impending presence of Valentine’s Day.

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In Which I Talk about Rejection

Rejection Just Ahead Green Road Sign with Dramatic Storm Clouds and Sky.


It’s pretty Suck-tastic.

No one likes it, and dealing with it can be difficult to say the least.

In my opinion (which is humble. obviously. Why else would I have a blog to air my opinions were they not among the humblest?) lack of closure is the hardest part about rejection.

We like to know what we did wrong. [Because surely, if we could just fix those few behaviors that made all the difference, it wouldn’t have happened. We can make sure to never do that one thing  again and could thereby convince the object of our unrequited affection that they want us after all! Right? Right???]

It doesn’t really work that way.

And one of the most difficult parts of turning down or breaking up with a genuinely nice person is trying to articulate WHY.

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