In Which I’m Still Trying to Find Myself, But Others Find Me Humorous(ly)

“You’re just not what I’ m looking for.”

Been there. Done that. Never bought the t-shirt because–let’s face it– I’m way too cheap for souvenirs that aren’t at least figure-flattering, but I COULD have had I wanted to.

I get it. You’re looking for someone else–Someone smarter, prettier, lower maintenance, higher  maintenance, thinner, curvier, funnier, less cheesy,  more graceful, more gracious, more assertive, more compliant, more ambitious–whatever. You discovered that you wanted something different; and I’m just not what you’re looking for.

And yet, regardless of what you seek, I am what you found.

Recently, there has been a slew of searchers who, in their quest to obtain something else, have found me.

And it’s been hilarious.

Below is a sampling of the terms we’ve come through:

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Relationship Advice from YA Literature (and why I avoid it)

Today’s post is a little off the beaten path from my journey through online dating, but I want to give a shout out to Matt.

This aspiring young writer has been featured in Freshly Pressed and is giving a good name to teenagers who choose to pursue excellence, refusing to allow youth to be a convenient crutch for poor writing. As a former Jr. High and High School English teacher, I say, “Hats off to you, Matt!”

This weekend, Matt is hosting a blog party, the theme of which is “Young Adult Literature,” and I decided to chime in.

What, you may ask, does Young Adult Literature have to do with Online Dating? Well, one thing that young adults and not-so-young adults-engaged-in-online-dating all have in common is the desperate need for advice when navigating the rocky realms of relationships. Just tonight, in fact, I sent an S.O.S. to one of the few men who has been on a date with me yet still remains my friend after all was said and done. My desperate plea for intervention included the line: “I totally fail at this first date thing. . . what am I doing wrong?”

We all need help from time to time.

When in need of advice, though, it is imperative that one obtain it from a reliable source. [If you were seeking advice on how not to create an online dating profile, my blog would be an excellent resource. If I am seeking help in identifying my first-date-faux-pax committals, a man who has survived a first date with me and still likes me enough to keep in touch would be a reliable place to begin seeking information.] One place I would NOT seek relationship advice from is a YA novel.

Don’t get me wrong–I have nothing against YA literature. This past summer, I read the entire Harry Potter series, the Percy Jackson books, the first five installments in the Series of Unfortunate Events, and the Matched, Crossed, Reached trilogy. In the past, I’ve read the Hunger Games as well as the Twilight series; and Divergent is currently sitting on my bookshelf (along with dozens of other books I no longer have time to read now that I’m working two jobs while trying to maintain a social life and a blog).

So rest assured that I feel no animosity toward YA Literature. That said, I offer the following four reasons why I would NEVER seek relationship advice from a YA novel:
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